Updated: Feb 1
I’ve got a big one for you today… are you sabotaging your own success?
Are you in some weird and not so wonderful way of getting in your own way of succeeding?
You see, your subconscious mind rules the day. For the most part, it rules your emotions, your intentions, your actions and your future. Your subconscious runs on programmes (AKA beliefs/thought habits), it doesn’t necessarily have awareness of good or bad, it only has these programmes to run on, a bit like a computer - it does what it’s programmed to do. Too often these programmes are negative, especially for women (more on that another day). These programmes from your perspective are your comfort zone… again this doesn’t mean your comfort zone is a good place, or where you want to be in life.
Now, there are 2 main ways your thoughts/mindset can sabotage your success. The first way you can self-sabotage is unknowingly having a negative belief about your success, or what it takes to achieve it.
I once had a very successful physical product business. I had lots of lovely orders coming in every day. And every day at 4.30pm I’d go into my office and package all the orders for the 6pm post collection. But no matter how hard I tried, how much I pushed my marketing, how much more money I threw on FB ads etc, the business plateaued. I had roughly the same amount of orders coming in every day, and nothing I did seemed to increase it.
Now at this stage of my life, I was deep into mindset work and personal development. I knew about the Law of Attraction, goal setting, meditating, journaling etc… but what I wasn’t overly good at is hunting down limiting beliefs.
The big obvious ones I had already worked through, but what I didn’t realise is there are some that are so under the radar we don’t realise they’re there. Their only sign is that despite your very best efforts and ticking all the other mindset/Law of Attraction boxes, your intentions simply don’t manifest, you feel blocked or you keep experiencing the same type of situation/experience over and over again.
So, when I realised this must be what’s happening with me, I did some deep personal work (more on this in a minute). I realised that I had this tiny underlying fear that getting more orders would mean more work and at the time my daughters were really young and I simply didn’t have any more time I could put into the business.
So my wonderful subconscious mind was steering my intentions/my actions and even the work I was creating to ensure the thing I feared didn’t manifest, it was protecting me.
When I realised this, I could take action.
I got help with the orders, I changed my delivery times from ‘next day’ to 1-3 days to alleviate the pressure that every single order had to be packaged and posted on the same day, and voila. More orders came in and the business grew... literally overnight.
My work flowed again, my creativity came back and even my social media content got more engagement because the energy I was putting in when creating everything was happy and at ease instead of fearful, frustrated and anxious. Which also made me realise that the emotional state you’re in when you’re working and especially creating content, gets past along to whoever is reading it, which is why I always tell clients to try to create with the emotions you want your reader to experience.
The second way you can self-sabotage is the notion that you succeeding (in whatever form and to whatever extent that means for you), most likely requires you taking action you’ve not taken before. It might require you changing your daily routine/learning a new skill/saying ‘yes’ to a new opportunity, putting yourself out there, etc….you get the idea.
Whatever action is required for you to reach the success you want, you’ll have to break out of your comfort zone to some extent.
So often in these instances, your subconscious starts freaking out (I’m sure there’s an eloquent technical for that, but let's call a spade a spade). The programmes you’ve been running off are being disrupted. Instead of trudging along on the same path with well worn comfortable grooves you’ve formed from all the years of being/doing/thinking the same will try and pull you back in… because that’s what you know, that’s where you’re comfortable and that’s where your programmes can keep on running with ease.
For example, you decide you want to start a new business. It’s scary, you’re nervous but you muster up enough confidence to make a start. Your first challenge hits you… your motivation is still strong, so you overcome it. Then another one, and another one after that (because business isn’t easy and these challenges ARE going to come… that’s not me being negative, that’s the truth).
Eventually, the effort it’s taking you to forge this new path (both in life and your mind) starts feeling exhausting. The negative beliefs that once held you back, rear their heads again (hello imposter syndrome👋😔) and if you’ve not got a good support structure to keep pushing you - you can so easily give up and claim “well I tried, it’s just not for me”. This “failure” reinforces those negative beliefs, gives them even more credibility, and those old programmes with their deep deep grooves, get a little deeper.
But neither of these need to happen to you!!
That's why I created this business and why I work so freakin' hard to ensure that women just like you overcome all of this and achieve all the success you're dreaming of. It really is possible.
You've probably heard plenty of stories about people going from being totally broke and in debt to rising up and being total game changers... even if that is just in their own families if world domination isn't your thing. That's why my Success & Happiness Mindset Academy exists. To help you feel unstoppable, limitless and filled with confidence and true from the heart happiness.
Don't let your past or even current circumstances dictate your future by staying trapped in the well-worn path of your mental programming. It can be changed, you can achieve and be everything you're dreaming of.
Let's make 2020 YOUR year!!